Kinky and Proud.

I hate it when people look down upon those who are in the BDSM lifestyle.

If a person is kinky or has a particular fetish, thats fine. If they are completely vanilla, and that makes them happy, that's fine too.
But please dom't look down on people because of their fetishes.

Case and point: my ex.
A narcissist who believes he is always right, this man knows how protective I am about my kinky life style, and how much I value it. He claimed to be a dom, yet he never showed any interest in domming me, inside the bedroom or out. I soon found out that not only was this guy not a dom, he was fucking vanilla as well. We actually broke up because of my BDSM lifestyle; he called it degrading, and so I walked away.

Two months later, an a few attempts to at least repair our friendship, and he still won't quit. He further voiced his disgust for the lifestyle by saying "those who like to dominate, degrade, and humilate others are just cowards."

What angers me is not only does this guy not get it, he doesn't even want to TRY to understand the lifestyle, or TRY to accept the fact the some people enjoy it. I've tried to tell him that rape roleplay isn't really rape because of consent, that humiliation really isn't degrading because of consent, etc. His problem is that he only sees things in terms of black and white, and the world of BDSM lies in various shades of gray.

I don't mean to use this particular blog as a place for me to vent, but this particular occasion I couldn't help myself. I am a kinky woman, I am a submissive woman, and I refuse to be ashamed of it.